If you ever asked if I miss you, I would probably say that I always miss you; that I missed you when we got to be genuinely good friends, and I knew it wouldn’t always be that way. And that I missed you when we started to talk less, and when you got back to dating the girl who tore your heart up, and when our conversations several times a week turned into conversations once a week, turned in to...
Honesty and communication are inarguably vital aspects of any good relationship, but the difficulty is that it takes a great amount of humility, bravery and vulnerability to actually sit with another person and explain to one another what’s going on and what you’re feeling and where you’re at. And so even though it seems like something we should have mastered by the time we finish high school, in...
Thus, the price of forgiveness for both the one who concedes it and the one who...– Livio Melina in Building The Culture Of The Family
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What Does Love Mean? See How 4-8 Year-Old Kids Describe Love When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my This is sweet.
I love the sound of your heartbeat. I love the steady rhythm, like an age-old lullaby, strong and quiet and comforting… and immensely peaceful. I love the sound of your heartbeat. It is the most beautiful sound in this world, because it means that you’re present and you’re living and you’re close to me. I love the sound of your heartbeat. And that is all.
It is continuously astounding, the immensity of...
I think it’s very sad, and even somewhat perverse, to hear someone talk about the day before marriage as their “last day of freedom.” I would think, rather, that the day of marriage would be your first day of freedom, the first day that you are truly free to fully express, for the rest of your life, your love for your spouse through that beautiful sacrament. And what an...
I write letters to people I miss, because it makes...
What if we wrote letters to the people we love, filled with all the intricate and detailed reasons why we love them? I’ll write one for everyone. You’ll never read it, but I’ll write one for you. At the time that we met, I did not like you and I did not like the taste of coffee. And then there was an incident with a thermos of the stuff and a single cup and no trace of cream or sugar. And I...
I have a hundred million issues with fear and courage, with strength and insecurities and niches and loneliness. I feared the time when all of my closest friends moved away, or got married, or grew distant; I feared the time when for varied reasons they weren’t here anymore. And I felt weaker afterward, and I’ve never felt as strong in quite the same ways. I feared being in love. I didn’t fear...
Two thousand years later and every preaching still comes down to, love one another
I wish Aslan was here with me. Also, there’s a good chance I’ll be deleting my account soon. Goodnight, precious creations.
[[MORE]] I am very sad. I don’t have much else to say.
Because of the complexity of my humanity, I am aware of certain things to be right and certain things to be wrong. And because of my faith and my convictions, I fight - not always as hard as I should - but I fight to follow my conscience on what is right and what is wrong, despite the instinct and inclination to act on desire. And this is easily the strangest part of possessing a conscience and...
"Oh my God, you're something, like nothing I've...
I have nothing left to say.
Your life, beloved, it is extraordinary.
Your life, beloved, it is extraordinary. And that will take more than a few seconds while multitasking to consider. It will take solitary explorations and drives with the stereo off, it will take consistent reminders; warm hugs and phone calls for no reason from the ones who love you. It takes moments of extreme peace and measures of heart-wrenching chaos, and hours spent in a chapel in the...
My younger sister texted me this morning...
Her: Hey do you have our Indiana Jones movies? Me: Heh heh… yes. Her: I knew it was you that took them when they were all missing except the fourth one. This is so accurate.
There have been too many bad days lately. Too many “How are you?”’s, followed by “Unwell.” unwell… unwell… unwell. There is nothing wrong with being unwell. There is nothing shameful about it, and maybe sometimes you need a day to be allowed to feel that way, or a week, or a very long time. But it is never all that you are, and we keep saying it like it is, always drawing attention...
In one sense or another
Every letter that I write is a love letter. And how could they possibly not be, when you’re writing to the ones you love?
uninspiring [[MORE]] I sometimes feel as though when God created me, He created my mind to think a certain way, and my heart to love a certain way, and then created every other thing about me to contradict the first two so that I’ll always have to be lonely and unlovable.
Faith like a child
We are called to seek out the truth, and because this is an immense endeavor, we encounter difficult questions and face great doubt, and there will be moments or days or great measures of time where we are no longer sure what truth is, or if we could recognize it if we find it. And because of how overwhelming that is, sometimes we stop looking. And sometimes we don’t simply go back to wherever it...
Love is a decision not an emotion, and in the same way that we have to wake up every day and choose to love such-and-such a person, we have to wake up every day and choose to love God.
I don’t like when people saying anything along the lines of, “One day, someone will appreciate you.” It irks me when anybody says that to anyone else, because it sounds so cheap, it sounds like, “I know you, I know what you love and what you do and what’s in your heart, and although I don’t want you and I don’t appreciate you, some day, some non-existent...
Never stop falling in love… With your friends, your family, your parents, your siblings, your sweetheart… keep on falling in love with them, every second of every day, through every happiness and every trial and every change. Because the moment you stop falling in love with someone, you start taking them for granted.
Timey Wimey Things
I was watching some Doctor Who, and thinking about time… And how we measure time as linear, but that it could all be happening all at once, every moment… that you could always be seeing Christmas lights for the first time, always be a little child hiding under your sheets from monsters, and flying down hills in your little wagon, and asleep on the sofa between your parents, and crying...
Urgent prayer request!
carryonyoungsailor: Please, please take a minute to read this and pray and pass it along. The mother of my twelve-year-old brother’s best friend found out this week that she has widespread cancer, and only four to six weeks left to live. She and her family were entirely unaware that she even had cancer until a few days ago. She has four children from the ages of eight up to twenty-something,...
Anonymous asked: Any updates on the mother of your brother's friend? When I hear about tragic things like these they tend to linger in the background of my mind for a long time. She's been in my thoughts lately, and I pray for the best outcome for her family. I hope you continue to have the hopefulness, strength and kindness to be a support and a warm light to the people navigating the difficulties of...
Urgent prayer request!
Please, please take a minute to read this and pray and pass it along. The mother of my twelve-year-old brother’s best friend found out this week that she has widespread cancer, and only four to six weeks left to live. She and her family were entirely unaware that she even had cancer until a few days ago. She has four children from the ages of eight up to twenty-something, and this situation...
we-are-all-astronauts: It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society. — Jiddu Krishnamurti
For lovers and old friends
There’s something so much more satisfying to loving someone long after all those restless butterflies have worn themselves into a still and sleepy playfulness, there’s something so much deeper to loving like old friends. Beyond the excitement of beginning to know someone, the nervousness, the awkward but treasured conversations, the uncertainty of each other’s reactions, is a far more beautiful...
“You know when, sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later, they’re as dull as a brick? Then there’s other people, and you meet them and you think, ‘Not bad; they’re okay.’ And then you get to know them, and their face sort of becomes them, like their personality is written all over it. And they just turn into something so beautiful....
“I could not have known then that everybody, every person, has to leave, has to change like seasons; they have to or they die. The seasons remind me that I must keep changing.” - Donald Miller, Through Painted Deserts We mean it as a compliment, when we say “don’t change.” We mean, “I love you, respect you, admire you, enjoy you, just as you are.” But people do change, and it’s a beautiful and...
I'm so excited!
My lovely, amazing friends Maryann and Josh are celebrating the birth of their first baby. And I haven’t seen her yet, but she’s perfect. So welcome the world, beautiful baby! Say a prayer for this wonderful family.
Thoughts on compliments...
I’ve been thinking about the way we compliment people, and the way that we receive compliments. And I think that honest compliments are wonderful, and that people would be much better off if we all complimented each other more, but not only on our clothes or our looks or other physical traits, although it’s rather lovely to receive compliments on those things. See, I think we’d be better off if...
I like people in the morning
I like people in the morning. I like the early risers who wake up in an astonishingly good mood, and I like the ones who wake up grouchy, put out by the fact that morning came so soon. I like the ones who go about their morning with quiet resolve, calmly accepting the day ahead, but not quite enough to be bothered to talk much. I like when husbands in a hurry stop to kiss their wives goodbye,...
I could use prayers, please.
I think we are worth far more than we deserve, sometimes. That maybe the word ‘deserve’ denotes that we’re entitled to something, whereas our worth is wholly entangled with and inseparable from who we are, as human beings, as God’s beloved creations. And no matter what we ‘deserve,’ we are always, unconditionally, and without exception worthy of love and redemption. And you, whoever you are, are...
Know what isn't okay?
Couples demeaning and belittling each other. Alone, in front of others, or behind each other’s backs. Because here’s the thing. Every relationship of every kind is a privilege, and every human being is an exquisite creation who’s very exists demands love and respect. And every couple is a team, a unit, a partnership… and partners don’t put each other down, and partners don’t do anything at...
There are so many different kinds of love, and so...
4:49am quality of personal
[[MORE]]Honesty has always been important to me. I’ve never been comfortable with twisting truths or with not being up front with people. My opinion is that honesty should always be one of the cardinal elements of any type of relationship between people. But I’m realizing ever more how I’ve always been honest about the wrong things. Or at least, not always honest about all of the important...
“Don’t you know that you were never all alone?”
I haven’t been keeping up very well with this blog lately and I apologize, but I promise to get around to some original posts soon. In the meantime however, take this quote to heart and keep it there. Because on the loneliest nights, in the worst situations, in your nightmares and your fears and your failures, and all those times you didn’t feel as if you’d make it through…...
Levi the Poet - "Memories" excerpt
Excerpt from “Memories” by Levi the Poet. Beautiful words from Christ’s perspective, calling us home. I love this because it parallels a ruined relationship, it sounds so human, and so heartbroken, and therefore very relatable. “Do you remember your first love and the feelings you had for Me? Do you remember our long walks and the way that you stepped with Me? Do you...